How to stay connected ?

Staying connected

It doesn’t matter how excited you are about your partner if you are unable to stay on the same wavelength and keep a connection over time. Then it is possible that your relationship will suffer from major problems. To maintain that magical feeling of love and intimacy in a relationship we have to be willing to take charge of trhe quality of the connection in our relationships. The exciting thing is that it doesn’t matter if your relationship is at the prenatal stage or if it’s around 20-25 years old, these things will work to deepen your connection.

Express the feeling

Express to your partner what you feel about them every day. Do this even if you are in different corners of the world. Show your care. Saying “ I love you” doesn’t deepen a connection unless it’s accompanied by actions. Leave love notes under your partner’s pillow when you are going to be out of town. Hug your partner every time he/she walks in the door.

Nurture the kid within

Keep in mind that no matter how grown up your partner seems they are kids from within. We are all really just kids that have bodies that are ageing. Inside all of us are the unmet needs of our childhood as well as the playful spontaneous joyful child that we once were. Throughout the time you spend with your partner, see if you can notice the child inside them. Respond to that kid just as you would to a kid who has not yet grown older.

Bedtime stories

If you live together, go to bed at the same time, everynight. That means turning off the TV, the night-light and phone. This is your time together. Cuddle and talk, make love if the urge strikes but that is not the point. The point is to talk about your day, your worries and hopes. If you don’t live together, talk on the phone.

Touchy Business

Touch your partner as often as possible, and get them to touch you as often as possible. Skin to skin contact increases a hormone called oxytocin, the hormone of love. Oxytocin increases trust and a sense of safety; it reduces stress and increases your sexual arousal.

Play Time

Be playful in your interactions. Have a sense of humor in times of stress. Find something playful to do that you both enjoy. In our culture we tend to get serious and think that if an activity is not goal directed it has no purpose. Yet play expands your perception develops your imagination and gives us happiness.


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